For divorced parents of young children, working out child support and developing a parenting plan can be challenging. Fortunately, when your children are financially independent adults, you need not worry about these issues.
However, this does not mean your divorce will not affect your adult children.
Navigating important life events
Even if you and your ex rarely speak to one another, there will likely be times when you must gather in the same place to support your children. These may include weddings, graduations and birthdays.
Like children, adults should never feel pressured to choose sides in their parent’s divorce. This does not mean you can not set boundaries. For example, you might not feel comfortable dancing with your ex at your child’s wedding. However, think carefully before refusing to attend an event where your ex is present because doing so can have a lasting impact on your relationship with your children.
Maintaining healthy parental relationships
Divorce can come as a shock to your adult children, especially if they have not lived with you for many years. It is normal for them to feel a range of emotions. Like young children, they need reassurance that their feelings are valid.
Because your kids are grown, you might feel comfortable divulging specific details about your divorce but tread carefully. Sharing too much information can make your children feel uncomfortable. Avoid talking badly about your ex or asking your children to keep secrets.
No matter how old your children are, co-parenting can be challenging. If you are over 50 and considering divorce, you are not alone. Call Travers & Travers at 281-492-2166 or reach out via email.