In most cases, divorce is an emotional and difficult process. Even if the divorce is amicable in nature, it is unlikely that anybody thinks divorce is fun. It is very natural to want to get the process over with as quickly as possible.
One of the most common questions asked at the outset of the divorce process is how long it will take. While it is understandable to want to get through divorce quickly and start on the healing process, according to Psychology Today rushing through divorce is almost never a good idea.
What might make my divorce take longer?
Sifting through the financial end of divorce can often take several months on its own. Particularly if you are looking at a high asset divorce with multiple incomes, stock options, debts, business ownership or other divisible assets you may need the help of a financial professional.
Additionally, if there are children involved in the divorce you will need to do a lot of work with your ex-spouse to come up with a parenting plan. It is highly likely that you will end up in a co-parenting situation, which means a lot of negotiating and compromise. A strong parenting plan will make the future for yourself, your ex and your children much more pleasant. However, this takes time.
How can I help the process go faster?
Many people neglect the emotional side of divorce. It is very common for feelings like anger, sadness and depression to slow the divorce process down. Working with a trained therapist can help you manage your emotions and thus make better decisions. This will help the process go much faster.