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Five tips for settling arguments with your spouse

| Jan 26, 2020 | Uncategorized

All couples argue from time to time. This means that neither spouse is afraid or unwilling to communicate with their partner. Clear and consistent communication with your spouse is an essential factor in maintaining a healthy marriage. Many couples neglect this part of their relationship, which can increase their chances of getting divorced.

How can you positively resolve a conflict?

Here are some tips for resolving arguments with your spouse:

  • Control your emotions: During a disagreement, it can be easy to let your emotions get the best of you. In times like these, it is crucial to gather yourself and remain calm. Letting your emotions control your actions could result in a heated exchange between you and your spouse.
  • Don’t place blame: During the discussion, avoid making statements that the other person might take offense to. This could cause them to shut down and end any chance of having a positive conversation.
  • Understand your spouse’s side: The argument could end horribly if you are only trying to get your point across and not attempting to listen to your spouse. Genuinely listening to your spouse can allow both of you to find a middle ground and work on the issue at hand.
  • Avoid insults: During an emotional discussion, one person might accidentally say something they do not mean. It is crucial to carefully choose your words to keep the dialogue civil. Saying something you regret, can immediately end the conversation and increase the chance of arguing in the future.
  • Review the discussion laterPutting pressure on the two of you to resolve a conflict immediately may not be realistic. If a resolution to your disagreement is not readily apparent, then deciding to reexamine the problem, later on, might be beneficial. The extra time you have could be used to gather your thoughts and emotions, which can result in a more positive conversation.

If you and your spouse are unable to settle arguments and continue to struggle with issues, you could consider legal counseling or even a legal solution. An experienced family law attorney can help you voice your concerns and help identify any solutions.

If you have questions, please contact Travers & Travers at 281-492-2166 to schedule an appointment with an attorney who can provide additional information.